Our baby boy, Kaz, is the youngest of three. Kaz was diagnosed with a rare genetic brain disorder called Lissencephaly before he turned one. This disorder is usually associated with feeding difficulties. With all the emotions we went through after his diagnosis, there was one “aha” moment. We realized this was the reason Kaz had such trouble bottle feeding. After a swallow study was done, the doctors recommended a G-tube be placed due to his silent aspiration. We were so grateful. No more bottle feeds that would take over an hour. No more watching our baby boy struggle and choke from drinking. But with the G-tube came a whole new set of issues.

Kaz was started on a standard formula, which caused many stomach issues. He was in constant pain from feeling bloated and constipated. Constant pain meant constant crying. After a month on the formula, the doctors became concerned about his weight gain, and we were concerned about all the pain he was in. We knew something different was needed, something real. We decided a blenderized diet would be best for him, but with three kids and a full-time job, there was absolutely no way I would have time to blend our own food. Then Real Food Blends came to the rescue and saved us! I was introduced to Real Food Blends through our wonderful Lissencephaly online community, and I immediately called the GI doctor to speak with him. After researching, he agreed this would be the best option to try, and the products were covered by our insurance.

Within two weeks we saw significant weight gain! No more bloating. No more constipation. We had our happy little boy back. His smile and wonderful giggles returned. We could see the joy on his face again. Kaz has been on Real Food Blends for two years and it has been an incredible blessing for him and our family. We recently took a trip to Hawaii to celebrate Kaz’s 3rd birthday. Traveling with the Real Food Blends packs and knowing Kaz would still be getting the nutrition he needed while on vacation was amazing.

My name is John and I’m a 68-year-old retiree from Austin, TX. On October 3rd, 2017, I had major jaw replacement/reconstruction surgery. Bone and tissue were harvested from my body to construct a new mandible. I had oral cancer 42 years ago, and the long-term side effects of the radiation were the cause of my reconstruction. I’m one of the longest oral cancer survivors in the US. I stayed in the ICU/hospital for a month and ended up having 3 more surgeries during this time.
Because of my surgeries, I was unable to eat or drink, so I was given a standard commercial tube feeding formula using a machine that continuously fed me during the day/night. I think this nutrition was the source of several issues like constipation and possibly high blood sugar, and that’s a problem because I’m diabetic. My doctor and dietitian didn’t offer any other alternative at that time.

When it was near the end of my hospital stay, I had a G-tube placed to receive nutrition at home. This was supposed to be temporary until I fully recovered from my surgery but unfortunately it was not. We got home on November 3^rd, and my wife Peggy went to search on the internet, looking for alternatives to what we had. At the time, we thought it would be a short-term only issue but still wanted to find something like real food.

Peggy found Real Food Blends and we knew we were on to something, so we ordered several cases. After a few days of consuming Real Food Blends meals, it was apparent that we had hit the jackpot. I felt normal. Real Food Blends offers 6 different meals and I felt like I was finally giving my body what it needed.
I’m so very grateful that companies like Real Food Blends exist. Trying to blenderize food can be messy and a lot of work. Today I’m happy and healthy and grateful to be alive.

My daughter, Evely, is an amazing 6-year-old who loves music!

Our G-tube journey began when Evely was just 3 months old and recovering from heart surgery. This was initially thought to be temporary, but we would eventually receive several diagnoses that made swallowing challenging. We were prescribed several different commercial formulas. They made Evely sick every single time. Finding a tube feeding option with whole foods was very important to me. Reading the ingredient label on the commercial formulas was especially hard because I would maybe not have chosen them for Evely from a shelf in a supermarket.

I stumbled upon Real Food Blends website while doing some late-night research on G-tubes. Blending foods for Evely had become extremely time-consuming with the amount of time we were spending in hospitals and doctor’s offices. I was so grateful to have found a company that we could trust to bring ease to our situation. I also love that there is such a variety of options.

Evely has grown so much since starting Real Food Blends, “failure to thrive” has now been removed from her diagnosis list.

I recommend anyone part of the feeding tube community speak with their registered dietitian about a blenderized diet.

My daughter Caroline is a bright and smiley 3 year old who loves to play! She is a very active child but things haven’t always been this way. Caroline suffered severe oxygen deprivation known as Hypoxic Ischemic Encephalopathy during labor resulting in a brain injury that left her unable to coordinate oral movements necessary to drink from a bottle. She started with an NG tube at birth and had her G-Tube placed while she was recovering from her brain injury in the NICU at only 2 months old.

The NICU was the beginning of a long journey trying to find the right nutrition for our daughter. Soon after our daughter was born, we noticed that tube feeding times were very stressful and uncomfortable for Caroline and she was struggling to keep her food down. We tried one commercial formula after another, hoping to provide relief to our daughter, but none worked. She was incredibly uncomfortable and unable to keep food down. Reflux and tummy troubles ruled her life and ours.

Out of desperation, I scoured the internet and discovered parent forums discussing Real Food Blends as an option for kids like Caroline. As I read, I knew we needed to give it a try. I contacted her dietitian who ordered some samples for us to try over the course of a couple weeks. We created a feeding schedule, started Real Food Blends and sure enough, life for Caroline started to get a whole lot better.

As she transitioned onto Real Food Blends, we noticed a significant shift in our daughter’s comfort levels. She was finally able to relax and take a full feed without losing any food. Her growth became more stable and feeds changed from a time of high stress to a time of comfort. This newfound comfort opened the door to new opportunities which seemed impossible before starting Real Food Blends. She began to tolerate therapy, sleep, car rides, stroller rides and play time in a way that she never had before.

Now that we are able to get out of the house more without concerns of tummy troubles striking, I bring her food everywhere we go. We are a very active family so having her food conveniently packaged helps a ton. We use a combination of pump feeding and bolus syringe feeding with Caroline’s Real Food Blends, which has worked beautifully for our family.

As a mother, it means the world to me to know that my child is receiving high quality nutrition every day. I love being able to mix up the different flavors and talk with her about what she’s having for the day! For example, it was so fun to be able to give her the turkey flavor on Thanksgiving. I know it might seem like a small detail, but it opened a door for Caroline to relate to her peers. Her cousins and friends had a turkey dinner for Thanksgiving and so did Caroline!

Caroline has been on Real Food Blends for a year and a half now and we have never looked back. It has truly changed her life for the better and we couldn’t be more thankful that something like this exists as an option for families like ours.

by Tony Bombacino

“Life is short”.  We’ve all said it, and those of us who are a little further along on our journey with our 20s and 30s (and beyond) in our rearview are experiencing it even more every day.  Life seems to all of a sudden be stuck in fast-forward.  We might start to ask, “How did I become “middle-aged”?  I’ve somehow almost been married for 15 years, my “little” girl will turn 13 later this year and my little dude, AJ (who many of you know as our Chief Inspiration Officer) just turned 10 this past March.  More than anything, AJ turning 10 really got me thinking and drove me deep into reflection on the past decade.  After unexpectedly being thrust into the world of being a parent to a child with complex special needs, we found ourselves neck deep in survival mode – a mode that unfortunately became our new normal.  As Father’s Day approaches, I thought I would share my reflections as a SND – so far.

Seizures, ER visits, brain MRIs, feeding tubes, misdiagnoses, non-stop vomiting, adaptive equipment, canceled vacations, no friend play dates, sleepless nights and losing hope – Oh My!  That doesn’t have quite the same ring to it as the ole “Lions and tigers and bears, Oh My!”; does it?  Those were all scary things – and looking back, life has thrown me some curveballs, but my path as a Special Needs Dad has been a unique experience itself.  It’s one thing to go through tough moments yourself, but it’s entirely different when you see your child struggling and you feel so helpless; like you’re drowning – when you would give every penny, every ounce of energy and all the love you have just to see them be okay and at peace.  It’s even harder to grasp when your child’s challenges only seem to grow from having seizures ,to needing a feeding tube, to realizing he isn’t learning how to go potty on his own, not talking or walking – and then on to worsening behavioral problems.  It’s a lot to process.

But then, there have been these magical moments over the years when time seems to stop – when all the labels and struggles disappear and you feel completely connected to your child like never before.  He makes eye contact, smiles, plays, is at peace and although he speaks no words it’s as if he’s inside my head and we are one.  I’m grateful that I’ve had so many moments like this with AJ (and so has my wife, Julie) – laughing, tickling, listening to music and doing some of his favorite things (whistling, coughing, letting him go upside down, etc.) where everything is perfect.  I’m not worrying about when he needs his next dose of meds, that he can’t walk, that he doesn’t get invited to birthday parties or that he’ll never play little league. I’m 100% connected to him and him to me. It’s the purest JOY I have felt in life so far.  These are the moments that keep me going and although your moments may be different than those I have with AJ, if you look hard enough, I bet you’ll find some joy as well.

There are so many things that have happened that I’ve learned I was wrong about.  So many tears, so much laughter and so many triumphs along this path that is also filled with heartbreaking defeats and pain.  But, I know this – AJ makes me a better father; a better person.  Without listing out a million different things, here are a few key things I’ve learned in my first 10 years as an SND:

You Don’t Have To “Stay” Stuck In Survival Mode and you can indeed learn how to be happy, fulfilled and “okay” despite all you have to handle and carry with you each day.  On an airplane they tell us to put our oxygen masks on first, but as special needs parents it seems we quickly get (and stay) lost in medicine schedules, doctor appointments, meal prep, therapy options, new treatment options, paying bills, not sleeping and so on – and we just get to a point where we accept that we’ll be tired and sad for the rest of our lives.  My hope for you is that you one day realize that you do NOT have to do this.  We can’t wave a magic wand and make all the bad stuff go away, we can’t find a way to not be tired if you never sleep and it will never be easy to see our children struggle, but you can find a way to thrive even in the middle of the really hard stuff.  Look for a smile on your kid’s face, listen to music that brings you joy, look to your spouse and other loved ones and reflect on an amazing experience you’ve had – and fight like hell to carve out some space and time for your own happiness and peace.  You deserve it and you can do it. 

There’s A Very Thin Line Between Hope and Reality but you can learn to accept your current reality while still hoping for a brighter future without breaking your own heart every time your little person has a setback.  I’m a dreamer, but I’m also a realist.  When people ask me about the outlook for my son’s future, I don’t mince words and usually say it probably looks a lot like his present (he’ll just be bigger ). I’m also quick to add on things like, but you never know what life will bring.  We live in a time with amazing technology and doctors and I am more connected to my faith than ever before.  What I’m saying is, I know that my son may never talk and he may always need a feeding tube, but I will never let that stop me from hoping for the best possible life for him.  I’ll never stop trying to get him the best doctors, nurses, therapists, nannies and equipment possible.  I’ll never stop hoping that he’ll one day say MaMa or DaDa or Luca (his big sister’s name). I’ll never stop thinking about what it would be like to watch him take some steps on his own and I’ll never stop trying to make him smile.  You see, you can be a logical realist and still dream and hope for all of these good things.  The key is finding a way to accept where your child is now while you still dream about the future.  You got this!

You Will Doubt Yourself And Want To Give Up Very Often but please don’t!  As AJ’s Dad, I beat myself up all the time.  I think, why can’t you figure this out, Tony? Why can’t you stop AJ from having seizures? Why can’t you teach him how to eat with his mouth? Why can’t you help him with his constipation or put him at ease when he’s overwhelmed? Why isn’t he sleeping better and why isn’t he learning how to communicate faster and why and why and why?!?  I question if I’m the best person for this “job”. I search my brain, heart and the internet for answers.  I think that I can’t possibly go on for one more day and keep running on this hamster wheel – nothing I’m doing even is making a difference, none of this even matters; right?  WRONG!  You’ve probably felt some of these same emotions and thought some of these same things on your own special needs parenting journey.  It’s completely normal.  You aren’t losing your mind, you aren’t weak and you don’t just need to “suck it up”.  Finding out your child has special needs and adapting your mind and heart to this new world is extremely hard and takes a lifetime to understand and adjust to.  I know you are doing the best you can. Sometimes we have more to give and sometimes less.  Push yourself to be present and give the best of you to all of your kids, but please, stop pushing yourself to and over the edge.  Stop breaking your own heart and telling yourself that you aren’t good enough and that you can’t handle this.  If you’re reading this, I’m quite confident the opposite is true.  Your kid(s), spouse, family, friends and entire circle are lucky to have you.  It’s time you start believing in yourself the same way you believe in your child.  Moving forward, make a commitment to drown the pain with joy and gratitude!

On top of our usual challenges, we’ve all been through a lot this past year or so.  My hope for all of you is that you can find some joy, connection and strength from my personal reflections.  I also hope you make the time to reflect on your own journey and all you have learned and overcome and that you are able to find more peace and grace as you look ahead to the next 10 years.  So long for now and Happy Father’s Day!